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[email protected] - 2003-10-29 23:19:56
My first gut reaction to your entry? It seems Matt isn�t meeting you halfway in this relationship. This happens when a relationship falls into a routine. I don�t know all the inner workings of your relationship, but he appears to have entered a �comfort� zone. The showering of compliments and thoughtful gifts on your part is a true show of affection which Matt may be taking for granted. I have been in his situation a few times myself. Receiving all the love and attention made me forget that I wasn�t reciprocating the same feelings. My advice? You have several options; 1) Stop giving or at least tone it down quite a bit. By starving the steady flow of your affection may cause Matt to seek it out from you (subconsciously because men never really notice these things) by showing you affection in return. 2) Asking him bluntly, but try to turn it into a joke �what�s the deal? I do this, do that for you and what do I get? Hold the remote (or whatever you are holding in your hand at the time) for you?� 3) depending on the seriousness of your relationship you can tease him a little by saying, �ahhhh if you loved me, you�d buy me this�� but this depends on how comfortable you are in this relationship. If he knows you well, Matt will know that you�re only teasing, not being shallow. But you never know, maybe Matt is just stingy or just not as thoughtful as you are by nature. Which ever decision you choose, make sure you get this issue out of the way soon, because this will nag at your heart until you just yell at him one day. That would turn your minor issue from bad to worse. Sorry, I wish I could have gived you ground breaking advice but that is all I could come up with from experience....
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[email protected] - 2003-10-29 23:23:16
Hmmm I also wished I couldn't have spelled checked my comment before I posted it.... "given" not "gived". Grrr... stupid me.
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[email protected] - 2003-10-29 23:26:33
God I should go to bed..... last correction: "Hmmm I also wish I spelled checked my comment before I posted it"*
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Neove - 2003-10-29 23:27:55
spell-check* ~now she leaves to go to bed~
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heather - 2003-10-30 22:10:35
I'd go for number 2. Chances are he's dumb as most males are and doesn't realize that not reciprocating hurts your feelings. If you truely told him how his lack of thought bothered you, I think he'd probably become more aware of it and try a little harder at being your boyfriend. As long as you let it slide he has no clue how you feel. Speak woman!! (Don't be offended, I just know you and assume you haven't plead your case:)
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ashlee - 2003-11-02 07:13:29
he likes the bed to himself , eh ? well, i was actually in a relationship like this - we go far out of our way to please the male, make them feel loved , and it just isnt cutting it - i remember you reading that you will be leaving him to got to school , right?> maybe these little key things are going to help you scoot out the door a little eaiser you know ? it seems like when you need the support right now, dear matt, is kinda giving you the red flag - but then , i picked and picked at my similair relationshop, and realized, he was just so wrappped up in hisself, he forgot that i , being a roaring female :), and needed attention also - all i can say is, really look at the relationship as a whole - if you were to show him your 5 pound bookmark, what would he say ? my ex would probably use it to pick his teeth lol- no really, all support goes to you , hun - best wishes on the test !
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